I think that, while any portion of your life can be confusing and present problems, I am at the age where I currently feel more confused than I’ve ever been. I don’t know how, I don’t know why, but I feel like everything is a giant blur. I feel as though we are generally thrust into university quite unprepared for what’s ahead of us. And I would tend to say that throughout university, we are not entirely prepared for the ‘real world’ we will experience upon completion of our course, either. The last few years have been confusing ones for me, and as I enter into the final year of my degree, I feel as though I am less prepared for life than I have ever been. There have however been some things that I have been learning, or have come to realise as I have grown, and I wanted to share them with you in the hope that it will help you, or that you can tell me what you’ve learned as you have grown.
You don’t have to know how the rest of your life will pan out
This one is a pretty big one for me. After three years of studying, I have a general idea of what I want to do in life. Unfortunately, I have no plan of attack on how to get there. And I have come to realise that this is okay. At the end of this year, I will be 22. I will hold a double Bachelors (providing I don’t fail Spanish) and I will have no desire to begin working full time. Considering that I will probably be working until I am around triple the age I am now, I see no reason to panic about finding my ‘dream job’ immediately. Sure, if my dream job comes to me then I’ll obviously take it, but it’s something that I’m not going to lose sleep over anymore. I am young. I want to see every single inch of this world, and sitting in an office 9-5 for the rest of my life isn’t going to allow me to do that.
People will still be horrible after high school.
Sometimes people absolutely suck. It’s a fact of life, albeit an unfortunate one. Recently I have realised that no matter what you do, how you behave or what you achieve, there will always be someone who wants to bring you down. For some reason, these people feel as though they have the right to do so – to make you feel small and bring you down to make themselves feel better. As hard as it is, you need to remove yourself from the situation, and rise above it all. Some people thrive off of others getting upset, and you have to ensure you don’t let them have that satisfaction. Unfortunately, leaving highschool doesn’t instantly make people mature. People will try to bring you down and break you, but you have to make sure you don’t allow them to. And as the Top 12 of Australian Idol put it so eloquently in 2003 – “rise up” (sorry I had to).
Sometimes, you have to f*ck up
I’ve written an entire post on failure in the past (which can be found here), but I still think the message is just as important. Without messing up, we are unable to truly appreciate when we succeed. Without failure, we find ourselves unable to learn from the mistakes of ourselves or others. While life is wonderful when everything’s perfect, sometimes we need to bring ourselves back down to earth and ensure we remember to fail. Not always, just every now and then. Doing this also ensures that when we DO fail, we aren’t as hard on ourselves when it happens. I’ll be honest – I probably need this advice the most. Having always been painfully hard on myself when things go wrong, I quite often need to step back and reevaluate the entire situation before I get too down and out about doing something wrong. Besides, the story about the time you baked terrible cookies is going to be much more memorable than the time you baked a perfect, however ordinary batch.
As someone who often forgets to do this, I worry that many others may be in the same boat as me. I stress. I panic. I get anxious. I know it’s happening, and I know that more often than not the situation is not as bad as I think it is, but when you’re stressing, nothing really fits into your perspective. Sometimes, everything gets a bit too much – I think everyone can agree on that. But when you take a step back and look at everything in a different light, it all begins to look okay again. I have learnt that sometimes life can be stressful. Sometimes things can get tough, and you have no idea how to deal with things. And that’s okay, so long as you calm down, breathe, and know that tomorrow will be a better day. I realise this post is not in line with my usual topics, but it’s something that I wanted to share. My mind has been all over the place recently, but I have found myself coming to these realisations, all of which have helped me understand things a little bit better. At the end of the day, I simply need to focus on what I am doing, ignore others, and get shit done.
What are some things you have learnt as you’ve grown? I’d love to hear them